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The Next Line (Tool)
Most couples don't cross a line because they both decided to. A tool for two: go through 24 lines alone, see only where you meet, and pick the next one together. A no stays private.
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The Sealed Rule (Tool)
Write down your rules, including the ones nobody ever said out loud. Then write the one you want and fear at the same time, seal it, and hand him your phone. What he does with it is up to him.
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The Menu (Tool)
He said no once, to one question. Twenty cards, one evening, and you'll know where the actual line runs — and what's still in front of it.
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The Sheet and The Log (two tools)
He fucks other men and you don't. Two PDFs: one to agree the terms, one to keep a record of the week you spent turning them down.
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The Casting Sheet (Tool)
He's choosing on his own criteria and hoping yours overlap. Two printed pages change what he's working with — and it's you he's working with now.
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The Task Manager (Tool)
Every Sunday you get something to do. Not this week — this week you get one page, and it isn't for you. Print it, hand it over, and go and be somewhere else.
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The Landing Instructions (Tool)
You already know what you need in a drop. You've just never managed to say it while it's happening.
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The Lying Licence (Tool)
Six questions, in a particular order, answered while you're both sober and dressed. What comes out is a document you can sign.
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Finding the words (Tool)
Most of what goes wrong early on isn't wanting the wrong things. It's saying them badly, or not at all. Two one-page worksheets for the gap between knowing what you want and being able to say it — one for the couple, one for the third man.
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The Citation (Tool)
One page, five sentences, handwritten by your husband — about you. The problem is obvious: you can't hand a man a sheet asking him to praise you. So this one isn't from you. It's addressed to him, it says you didn't ask for it, and you leave the room while he writes.
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The Jurisdiction (Tool)
Nobody on holiday knows what he is to you. That's exactly why they are so hot. Today we make them even hotter.
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Sideways: Our X-Files (Tool)
Not an outing. A way to bring the unsayable into the world without saying it out loud — both of you, the same sealed ritual, and a decision you make together: whether the box is ever opened at all.
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